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Originally Posted by ESL Teacher  For me, race seems to play a part of the decision. Let me explain.
I've spent 10 years learning Japanese and living in Japan. Hence, I have a Japanese girlfriend. Well I did that is. Then last Xmas I headed back to South Africa for the holidays. Whilst in SA, I met a stunner of a Korean woman. She really liked me and vice versa. We were only together for 1 week before I went back to Japan.
We kept in contact for a few months before I told her that our relationship wont work. Reason being is that she is Korean and I have no idea about the Korean culture. I love Japan, the culture and understand it so well. So it's only fitting I be either with a Japanese girl or caucasion girl.
Understand where I'm coming from? |
I met a Korean girl in Australia and knew nothing of Korean culture. I am learning as I go, what a ride. We are now married with a young boy and things couldn't be better. We are off to Korea in February for a few years so I can learn the culture, the language and a little more about my "Korean Family."
Culture and race shouldn't be the determining factor in a relationship. All relationships have a large learning curve, we have to learn about our partners, what makes them tick and how to relate to them. Culture is a mind set, if you can learn from it then I think one becomes a better person. If you fight against it then incompatibilities surface. I have seen incompatabilities between people of the same culture and visa versa. If you work hard at any relationship it will work. If you build walls it won't.